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Month: June 2020

Of Matatus and Why I Want Out!
This Life!

Of Matatus and Why I Want Out!

Yoo! I am tired. I am done. Public transport in this country is not for me. I have reached the end, a point of no return. That thing they say where ati if you profess something enough times you increase its chances of becoming reality? I hereby profess, as I have done so many times in the past. Whispered, prayed, shouted, chanted, and now, writing it down. Dear Gods that hear chants and make dreams come true, please bring a car my way. Because a girl is mad exhausted. If you use public transport in this country, then I am sure you have cried out for similar blessings. Matatus are not what you’d rather board daily. The whole experience is shady, save for the fact that they get you from one place to another. They are inconvenient. Dirty. Loud. Dangerous. Expensive. Unsanitary especia...
You Cannot ‘Cheat’ Your Way into Ethical Non-Monogamy
Hera Spot, Relationships

You Cannot ‘Cheat’ Your Way into Ethical Non-Monogamy

I wrote an article here on why we should consider embracing ethical non- monogamy as a long-term solution to the buckets of tears cried in these social media streets daily. A significant number of people, especially men, misconstrued the article to mean cheating is a natural human condition, with ludicrous comments such as ‘no man is monogamous’, and ‘white people brought monogamy upon us’.  We can have the conversation on religion and its impact on our romantic relationships, what we will not discuss is your belief that a particular gender is ‘naturally’ predisposed to being non-monogamous, and therefore in a monogamous setting, cheating from their end is a given. Please, Sir, you are not cheating on your lover because you are non-monogamous, but because you are a d...
On Father’s Day, and The Dilemma That is Our Fathers
This Life!

On Father’s Day, and The Dilemma That is Our Fathers

This post is not late, because it was not meant to be posted on Father’s Day. One, because I wanted to spend the day observing what people say of their dad on this day, and two, because I didn’t want to rain on y’alls fathers’ parade with my musings. Alas, this year’s Father’s Day was no different, social media was awash with a mixture of emotions. Almost a perfect balance of the positive and negative. Interesting because on Mother’s Day, we see very minimal posts castigating the moms. Is it because our moms are generally better humans? Is it because most often than not the parent that stayed was the mother? Is it that the parent who listened, who cared, who advised and held us in their arms is our mum? Is it because the parent who did the actual parenting is our mother? You tell m...
Adults Need Sex Education
Hera Spot, Sex

Adults Need Sex Education

It is funny how when you are young (below legal age), you imagine adults know things about sex. Until you become an adult and start experiencing that side of life, you realize a lot of people don’t know a lot of things. In conversations around sex education, the target audience is always young people. Which is fair because truly, they don’t know. Especially in a world full of predators and sex offenders, the earlier sex education is delivered, the better. Many of us have stories of things that were done to us when we were young; things that we only realized were wrong and criminal when we obtained knowledge much later. Things that we could have reported and hopefully, get protection. I say hopefully because this world is fucked up man, You’d be surprised how many parents would opt ...
Who Am I?
This Life!

Who Am I?

If you are a millennial, then you must be familiar with Jackie Chan movies, and the craze period where ALL of us were going bonkers over Uncle Jackie. I am sure it happened to us at different stages (considering the first millennials were born about 10 years before the last batch). But we were in it together, imitating his kicks and tricks from the films. Add in Mr. Bean' (ah- I want to go back and watch him all over again!), and the notorious Naija ones where the villains were turned into dogs like in Suicide Mission (In fact I remember it was unrepentant Monique who was turned into a dog 😂). Was it in The Price that the pastor showered and turned blind, after his wife put juju in the soap? Ha. Interesting times, these were. The title of this article is inspired by Jackie Chan’s c...
50 Shades of Embarrassment!
This Life!

50 Shades of Embarrassment!

I have just finished watching a movie on Netflix called 365 Days. Erotic, raunchy, suspensive. Sexually suspensive I must say. The whole concept is tied to sexual submission, with a bit of love alluded in there but- very 50 Shades of Grey. I know you get it. Truth is, I have never watched 50 Shades of Grey in its entirety. The first time I tried, around the time it came out in 2015, I believe something must have interrupted me. So I paused and promised to come back later. I did come back later, just not to the movie I had paused. This second and final trial was a massive fail, something I can only call 50 Shades of Embarrassment. Here’s what happened. In 2015 I was in school, pursuing a Journalism degree that had turned out to be quite a disappointment. I still don’t understand ...
On-board The Banana Bread Craze
Food, Reviews

On-board The Banana Bread Craze

This article shouldn’t be under the reviews section because I digress a lot and ideally you shouldn’t review something you made yourself, yes? I think so. But all my previous attempts at baking have been whack, and finally something eatable came out the oven! In Kenya we say corona will show us things. Here is you being shown a thing :) . I saw a meme on Instagram that was about people who have only two moods; either they feel totally meh, or they feel like they are Eliud Kipchoge, God’s gift to the marathon world. Is me. That meme. Baking banana bread SUCCESSFULLY had me wondering why with my big age I have not opened a bakery yet? Like… This was my third attempt at baking in life. The first two attempts were a massive flop, even guys who are not picky eaters said no. That unl...
The Elephant in the Room That We Are Ignoring in the Edgar Obare ‘Exposes’
Hera Spot, Relationships

The Elephant in the Room That We Are Ignoring in the Edgar Obare ‘Exposes’

A story is told of a man who kept a dog, took care of it as if it were his child. The man loved the dog, a love so strong that he could not let the dog out of his sight. A love so selfish that when he took it out for walks, the dog would be punished for responding to another’s bark, or trying to sniff the neighbour’s bitch; actions that held the possibility of the beast discovering there’s more to the world than his captor. In the man’s mind, the relationship he had built with the animal guaranteed unyielding loyalty and longevity. But a canine is born to roam and bark and sniff the neighbourhood bitches. A caged dog is an angry dog, a dangerous beast. Unless you intend to breed it into a lethal weapon against your foes, we all know how it ends: In premium tears. Let’s talk about human...