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The Art of Peaceful Separation
Hera Spot, Relationships

The Art of Peaceful Separation

I want to be forever young, which I know is impossible but, I wouldn’t mind being a black that don’t crack well into my 60s. I am looking forward to that. I like how as the years fly by and I mature into ripe grapefruit (I believe I am still too young to use ‘aging like fine wine 🤣), I experience an increase in understanding on matters love and life. One of the things I have learnt, and continue to learn, is the art of peacefully walking away from situations that no longer serve me. No drama. You realize something is not working, and you have tried your best, and this thing does not even hold its destiny in your hands, you walk away. Like you were never even there. Especially with romantic relationships. The broken beyond repair ones. The ones being held by feather strings. Those o...
To Enter Marriage… Or Sit It Out?
Hera Spot, Relationships

To Enter Marriage… Or Sit It Out?

I was randomly going through my Google News App, as I do often, trying to see how far the world has reached in burning itself down, and what part I play. And the way Google News App is set up is you are able to access everything, from ‘serious’ news to latest gossip to opinion articles published in the dailies. Today I came across this opinion article on marriage, published in The Standard by Dayan Masinde. I understand Dayan is a writer who writes/speaks a lot on relationships (from a quick Google search). I am yet to check out more of his work, and would like to make clear that this conversation is not about him or his work but the contents of the particular article I came across.   The article is titled ’25 Reasons Why Marriage is Good’. Honestly, is there a catchier title ...
You Cannot ‘Cheat’ Your Way into Ethical Non-Monogamy
Hera Spot, Relationships

You Cannot ‘Cheat’ Your Way into Ethical Non-Monogamy

I wrote an article here on why we should consider embracing ethical non- monogamy as a long-term solution to the buckets of tears cried in these social media streets daily. A significant number of people, especially men, misconstrued the article to mean cheating is a natural human condition, with ludicrous comments such as ‘no man is monogamous’, and ‘white people brought monogamy upon us’.  We can have the conversation on religion and its impact on our romantic relationships, what we will not discuss is your belief that a particular gender is ‘naturally’ predisposed to being non-monogamous, and therefore in a monogamous setting, cheating from their end is a given. Please, Sir, you are not cheating on your lover because you are non-monogamous, but because you are a d...